Remember when your partner couldn't keep their hands off you?

When they'd look at you across a crowded room with that look that said "I want you"?

When intimacy felt natural, exciting, and deeply connecting, instead of like another obligation?

That woman is still inside you. And that connection is still possible.

But somewhere along the way—maybe after kids, maybe during a stressful season, maybe just gradually over the years—everything changed.

Now you feel like:

- You're invisible in your own relationship

- Intimacy feels like a chore instead of a connection

- Your partner barely touches you anymore (and when they do, it feels obligatory)

- You've lost yourself in being the wife, the mom, the manager of everything

- You're exhausted from over-functioning while feeling under-appreciated

- The "spark" is completely gone and you don't know how to get it back

You've probably tried:

- Scheduling date nights (that feel forced and awkward)

- Buying lingerie (that makes you feel ridiculous, not sexy)

- Following generic advice (that clearly doesn't understand your real life)

- "Spicing things up" (with strategies that don't address the real problem)

And when nothing worked, you started believing the problem was you.

But here's the truth:

You don't have a desire problem.
You have an understanding problem.